I’ve written and rewritten the lead-in to this, and I just don’t know how to do this without just coming out and saying that this is one of the more disturbing sites I’ve seen in a long, long time:
WELCOME TO CHRISTIAN DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE
Loving Wife Spanking in a Christian Marriage
You know you want to read more about this.
Now, far be it from me to suggest that people should never play at dominant and submissive roles in their marriage. When done consensually, it can be fun for some people, and I’m a very live-and-let-live sort. But…well, these people don’t seem to be playing:
A domestic discipline marriage is one in which one partner in the marriage is given authority over the other and has the means to back the authority, usually by spanking.
A Christian Domestic Discipline marriage is one that is set up according to Biblical standards; that is, the husband is the authority in the household. The wife is submissive to her husband as is fit in the Lord and her husband loves her as himself. He has the ultimate authority in his household, but it is tempered with the knowledge that he must answer to God for his actions and decisions. He has the authority to spank his wife for punishment, but in real CDD marriages this is taken very seriously and usually happens only rarely. CDD is so much more than just spanking. It is the husband loving the wife enough to guide and teach her, and the wife loving the husband enough to follow his leadership. A Christian marriage embodies true romance and a Christian man a true hero.
Though this seems unusual in today’s United States, this kind of marriage has been practiced throughout history and is still practiced in many parts of the world today.
The site has all sorts of lovely links, like a place you can purchase sweet undies like these:
I know. Hot, huh?
Of course, the site is very clear that this has to be consensual:
Though we believe the Bible gives a husband the authority to use spanking as one tool in enforcing his authority in the home with or without his wife’s permission, in today’s world we recognize the legality that mandates that all CDD must be consensual. Therefore we will do not condone nonconsensual CDD as a rule.
In other words, they recognize that it “has” to be consensual, but when those pesky domestic abuse laws are repealed, it’s a free-for-all.
Also, this is a one-way street:
In CDD, the husband has authority to spank the wife. The wife does not have authority to spank her husband.
And gays, just in case you were wondering:
CDD is practiced between a man and a woman.
Sorry, no semi-consensual spanking for you!
The site has a number of other wondrous things, from a handy glossary (Pre-emptive Spanking:A spanking given before an event or occasion where a wife has, in the past, had a difficult time with her behavior in the hopes the reminder will help her to behave, sparing her a more severe punishment spanking. ; AAAC: Acronym for Avoid At All Costs. A spanking designed to be particularly severe) to really depressing blog entries like this:
Okay, this is the third day in a row in my Maintenance Diary I have had to give myself a C in the area of housework and the second day I’ve had to give myself a B/C in the area of holding the kids accountable to the rules. I feel like I am slipping this week. For some reason I seem scattered and can’t get the things done that I need to get done, plus my teenage son seems more slippery than ever. It seems like I can’t pin him down long enough to get him to take out the trash, let alone do some Algebra. Am I just incapable of not letting the kids manipulate me? I don’t even know what is happening until it has already happened. I looked around yesterday and all the kids were gone to friends’ houses and I hadn’t checked their room and they hadn’t done any schoolwork or other chores.
So what does this mean? Does it mean I have to have a severe maintenance session every week? Because I’m afraid that’s where I’m headed this weekend if I can’t pull it together. And it’s already Wednesday! I’ve already got three C’s in housework. I doubt my husband will overlook that.
But certainly the best part has to be the page that explains how to break the news to your partner that spanking is now in play. The women who need to be spanked have the easier explanation, of course:
Make it clear this is a need of yours, not just some passing fancy. Acknowledge it might sound weird, but up until the middle of the 20th century it was very common, and even today thousands practice CDD.
But the menfolk have a trickier needle to thread:
1. Husbands, you are in a stickier situation. It is one thing to tell your husband you need correction, but it is quite another to tell your wife she needs discipline. Take it slowly.Maybe consider introducing it to her a bit at a time.
2. If she is already committed to living in a Biblical marriage (i.e. husband the head of the household), you are blessed. Explain to her the Biblical justifications for CDD (for more information, see Understanding Christian Domestic Discipline), and gently suggest you use CDD.
And if she gives you any lip, sock her.
Now, as I said, I’m all for couples doing this to engage in dom/sub play, and great if they are. But this isn’t that. Let’s call this what it is: abuse.
But let’s not pretend that the site is lying, at least not about everything. This is how things ran until a half-century ago, when women finally began to struggle out from under the thumb of their husbands. We have come a long way quickly. But we still have a long way to go.